Thursday, October 10, 2019

“The Personal and the Social” (South Bay Polys #256 - Apr. 2017)


So I sit at lunch with my friend the therapist talking about poly-mono couples; they often go through cycles of not getting along, then reconciling, then not getting along, then reconciling…  Eventually, perhaps, they commit to each other and to each other’s needs and accommodate one another.  What would help them, beyond therapy and understanding and time?

Meanwhile I hear of a court case in some state or other where the ruling recognized parental rights for more than two parents.  That is significant.

And then, in my own work with the Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness (UUPA), I will probably attend the regional UU conference early next month in Walnut Creek.  The election for leadership of the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) is approaching, and one of the three candidates has apparently expressed appreciation for polyamorous people.  Several years ago the UUA committed to non-discrimination in hiring when it came to “family structure.”  UU Polys, however, are still waiting for general UU attitudes to clarify.  All three candidates will speak at the conference and presumably be open to questions.  They may get a few from the poly folks in attendance.

So what actually helps poly folks in their lives?  Therapy?  Lawsuits?  Policy changes in churches and other organizations?  I think it all helps.  The term “polyamory” has now been around for several decades, and maybe we are now gaining traction in the culture at large.  Let’s hope so!

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