Wednesday, October 16, 2019

“Positive. Fragile.” (South Bay Polys #271 - August 2018)



I know a woman online who has declared herself asexual.  What she seems to mean by that is that she does not want to be involved in any relationships right now.  Would she engage in sex?  Who knows?

Some people can indulge in sex without emotional attachment, some can’t.  We talk about sex positivity, yet the more I watch people the more I realize how fragile many people are in any sort of interaction with other people, particularly interactions involving feelings – especially sexual feelings.

That accepted…one might understand people who opt for no relationship—or one relationship only.  People don’t want to be hurt.  And even people who have found a fulfilling relationship have usually gone through several unsatisfactory ones along the way.  “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.”

Of course, the “casual sex” people probably won’t have these problems.

Me, though – I’m an outgoing person who enjoys physical contact and deep emotional sharing.  And I suspect many polys are this way.  And somehow we are open to the possibility of….having this kind of relationship with more than one person simultaneously. 

We simply have to find our way to learning how it’s done!

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