I’m thinking that, to the outside, non-poly observer, if a poly person
has more than (say) three relationships going, it could be difficult for the
observer to see any difference between that and casual sex. However…
The relationships may not be primarily sexual. They may be sexual, but they may also be
romantic, supportive, friendship.
The relationships are, hopefully, actual relationships; i.e. not
one-night just-for-sex flings but actual supportive deepening friendships
developing love and some form of commitment.
The number of involvements tells you little about the depth
of the involvement.
For me,
involvement is never casual. The connection may physical to whatever
degree, but it always involves an emotional
element and some level of commitment
to the relationship. For me, this is what
makes something a relationship—and
what makes the whole thing worthwhile.
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