“A Church That Accepts Polyamory?” (South Bay Polys #280 - June 2019)

In nine days, I leave for Spokane, Washington, and the 2019 General Assembly of the Unitarian Universalist Association.  I will be representing the First Unitarian Church of San Jose, California—the church where I came out as polyamorous, sometime around 1990.

So no—I’m not talking about some offshoot of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (ie. the “Mormons”), that practices male-centric polygamy;   I’m talking about the Unitarian Universalists who, several years ago, voted to not discriminate against anyone based on family structure.

The UUPA, Unitarians Universalists for Polyamory Awareness (of which I am the Board Secretary), rejoiced; in the end, who knows what this resolution actually meant, either literally or in practice.  The resolution sits quietly neglected, does the UUA even remember its passage?  They have said very little, if anything (as far as I know) about it since its passage.

Well, I’m off to Spokane, to (among other things) sit at the UUPA table in the Exhibit Hall..  We’ll have information about polyamory and about polys within the UUA.  Whether this event will be interesting or boring, I can’t yet say.

But—I will say this:  I came out to my church almost thirty years ago because I didn’t want to hide who I was, and I didn’t want to hide the fact that more than one person was important to me (and them).  Some people noticed the giddiness around our group; I wanted to confirm the love was real.  I still do.

We’ll see how Spokane goes.