1. The range of attitudes
concerning the role of sex in our poly lives.
While for some people (me?) polyamory is something very close to
monogamy--except with more people!--for other people it is much more about sexuality
in general -- maybe more about how "sex-positive" we are?
But what is "sex-positive?" Does it just mean viewing sex as a good
thing? But coerced sex is not a
good thing--we have to take that into account.
Sex can be used in malicious ways.
While you can blame that on the people rather than the sex....that
still must be taken into account when saying "sex-positive!"
2. For myself--sex is
never a "thing in itself" for me.
People talk about "why can't we have sex with no strings
attached?" I don't want to
have sex with "no strings attached!"
I want sex that involves an emotional connection. That in itself means there is some sort of
attachment. Connection = Attachment! I may not want to live in your presence night
and day, forever and ever--but I want to feel an attachment, a connection of
some kind, even if it is only in my memory!
Even if we live mostly apart, I want that sex to have meant
something, somehow!
That is simply how I am--but it is up to us to make sex
"positive"--because it can be a negative if treated unwisely!
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