“Interdependent As Desired” (South Bay Poly #249 - Sept. 2016)

People talk about being “open and honest.”  The point is not to conceal anything that someone you’re involved with would want to know. 

However, not everyone wants to know everything about your other involvements. Sometimes they just don’t care, or just aren’t interested.

This is not the same as “don’t ask, don’t tell.”  The point isn’t how much you want to tell or not; the question is how much they want to know.

Nevertheless, there is an issue, I think, of privacy.  Just because you are involved with someone, that doesn’t mean you have to share everything with them.  A person still has a right to some privacy.

Some people will disagree.  “Open and honest,” they will say, means you conceal nothing.

I’m not sure.  What I do know is that balancing these considerations may not be easy.

But relationships never are; and this is even truer for polyrelationships.