Pantheacon, Day Three -- I attend a workshop on Sex Positivity. Over fifty people exchanged ideas on what guidelines might be useful for sex positive people. The specific task was to produce our own “Ten Commandments” (okay, five, they finally said) of Sex Positivity. Some ideas included:
Mindful Reciprocity between partners.
Deliberate Spontaneity (a bit of a Zen koan!).
Communicate your boundaries.
Be true to your own sexuality.
Mind your own business (in regards to others)
Meet your partners at your mutual boundaries
Express your needs.
After this exploration, we considered some ethical dilemmas that might arise relating to sexuality between people. Many of these involved cheating or differing needs and wants.
This is the outline. But just the outline. Worthwhile in and of itself -- but inviting much more thought.
Sounds like a fantastic workshop! I really like each of these "commandments". As a sex ed teacher for middle school youth(shout out to UUism and OWL!) I'm always trying to balance sex positivity with respect for those who are asexual and/or just not ready yet.
ReplyDeleteI'm trying to remember exactly what we *meant* by each of these remarks!
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