Monday, January 23, 2012

The Way We Are

A week or two ago, one of my loves mentioned the nice long afternoon she’d spent with her husband’s new sweetie.  They’d had a good long talk.  It sounded lovely.  The two women have grown quite comfortable with one another.

Later it occurred to me how odd this would sound to most people in our society.  He’s married, but also has a girlfriend; and that girlfriend is also married and her husband also has a girlfriend...  And they all get along.  Really—where is all the drama?

We’re conditioned to expect drama.  So many movies and television shows assume possessiveness, jealousy, blind anger.  You mean such things aren’t preordained?

You’d think that might be a good thing.  But often people react with indignation.  How dare people not be jealous, possessive?  Something must be wrong with them!

And so it goes.  Most people don’t believe such things are possible; and if you suggest they are, or even show them, they become irate.

But we’re here.  And we’re happy this way.